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Dear Bee,

   So I have a friend that thinks she NEEDS a boyfriend in high school. I tried to explain to her that she does not need a guy to be happy and that maybe she just has not met the right guy yet, but nothing works. I just want her to feel good about herself and be worry free about if she will get a guy or not. Thank you for your time!

-Love, Friendship/Guy Struggles

 

Dear Friendship/Guy Struggles,

I’d just like to say she is very lucky to have a friend like you! When someone is dead set on something, it’s hard to change their mind. However; when the subject is brought up again, have her list all of her accomplishments in life and goals. Ask her if any of them have to deal with having a relationship. Assure her that the “one” is on his way, just not here yet. I’ve learned that the longer you search for love, the less it tends to come to you. Very few relationships tend to work out after high school, and college is always a great place to meet people!  Have her focus on school and spending time with her friends and family instead of worrying about a relationship. I hope this helps!

-Bee

 


   

Dear Bee,

   So I have a couple of “friends” that I have known for a while now. One, I have known since birth, and the other just came to our school this year. The girl that came this year spread a lot of rumors about me and the other girl went along with the rumors. This is not the first time this has happened. There is no possible way to avoid interaction whatsoever. Every time the girls apologize, they make me feel bad by guilt tripping me. So, should I just drop them? I feel like that would be the right choice, but after I do, I feel like they will spread even more rumors. What should I do?

-Sincerely, Rumors

 

Dear Rumors,

This is common of friendships in high school. You have to consider that a true friend doesn’t spread rumors and lies about you, and if they were a true friend, they’d take your word over anyone else’s. You should have “come to Jesus” meeting with them and tell them how you feel. I don’t think you should completely drop your friends… but perhaps try and work things out with them. Check out this link to help you deal with rumors! I believe it will be very helpful! 🙂 http://www.gurl.com/2014/05/29/tips-on-how-to-deal-with-rumors-about-yourself-gossip/#1 As a last result, if things don’t work out between ya’ll, drop them.If they continue to get worse, seek help from a trusted adult or friend or worst case scenario, a school administrator who will take the appropriate steps to stop the inappropriate behavior. Do not let the girls bully you! Revenge is never the answer… kill them with kindness! Good luck!

-Bee

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